After reading Jane’s blog this morning on the side effects of stress, I decided to use stress as the topic for my blog today. Her blog provides even more data to prove how bad stress on our health. It is very interesting that this was the first blog I read after getting bad news this morning. Maybe it was a sign, a sign that I need to not worry about things that I have no control over…just put it in God’s hands and have faith that it will all work out in the end. I struggle with this a lot.
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I feel like I am the biggest worrier in the world. Things that most other people would not stress over at all, drives me CRAZY.
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Example: Last year my husband was diagnosed with Clarks level II melanoma (an early stage). Luckily it has not spread and he was very fortunate that it was found early enough. He had a “wide excision” procedure to remove the growth and surrounding tissue from his back and since there were no signs of it having spread (ran blood work, chest x-ray, dialated eye exam, etc) no treatment such as radiation or chemo was necessary.
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Until the results of all his tests were back, I actually made myself SICK thinking about it. My tummy was upset, I couldn’t sleep, I’d break into tears for no reason, etc. I worried that he’d have to go through a lot of treatments or even worse, die. He is my rock in this world, it’s hard for me to put my love for him in to words. I can not imagine my life without him. We’ve been married for 10 1/2 wonderful years and partners for 14 years. When this turned out ok I promised myself that I wouldn’t let myself get worked up over things I can’t control becuase it was becoming a pattern for me.
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A similar thing happend the year before with a suspicious breast exam. Before being told that everything was ok, I went through 4 mammograms and a breast ultrasound - that was very upsetting also. So anyway — a history of overworry was developing for me. These are just 2 examples of things that took me down, there have been many others. 
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So this morning, hubby goes for his “full skin scan” at the dermatologist and boom - another suspicous looking mole had to be removed. This makes a total of 9 he has had removed (only the one last year was melanoma). Now here I am again thinking the worst — wondering if we will get that same upsetting phone call. Cancer is sooooo scary. My MIL is a survivor of breast cancer, my grandfather lost his life to lung cancer, and I’ve known many others to suffer a similar fate. My hubby has a strong history of various cancers in his family and I know he has an increased risk because of that. Worry, worry, worry……
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Anyway, sorry to write a “book”. I just thought that maybe getting all of these thoughts out of my brain and into a blog would help a bit.
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Say a prayer for my hubby and try to learn from my mistakes — don’t let things get you down, especially those things you can’t control.
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God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Good news — buddyslim is helping me with that second part, i.e. the courage to change the things I can.
I hope everyone has a great day and is free from stress.
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—Valerie ♥
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